On Christmas Day we celebrated the birthday of Jesus. We welcomed
the Son of God joining the family of man. On the following Sunday we reflect on
His Family Life – that of the Holy Family of Jesus, Mary and Joseph.
They
blended in so well with their neighbours that when Jesus started preaching they
complained that He was only the son of a carpenter. They thought Jesus was getting above
himself. They wanted to cut Him
down to size.
Isn’t it striking that 30 of the roughly 33 years the Son of God
lived on earth were so very ordinary –a humdrum family life, very similar to
ours? And, yet, that was far from wasted
time and opportunity.
It was in the
family that Jesus grew up and learnt, in a human way, to love and obey his
heavenly Father and His human parents, and saw for how husband and wife
lovingly related to one another. Theirs was the God-given vocation of being
home-makers. And so it is for most of us for at least part of our lives. This
is one of the most significant ways of our giving glory to God and in so doing
becoming glorious ourselves.
And now, in our time, if Jesus is at the heart of our own family
lives, what seems to be so mundane takes on an eternal value, in which we find
God in the love we show him and each other. And that is where God find us.
In the family children are to begin to
learn to behave like decent civilized human beings. They are learning to grow
ever more like God, in whose image we have been made. And if adults do not
continue to practice this until their dying day, the quality of their living
together, the quality of their relationship with God, will crumble.
Pope Francis gives us a very good idea
of what God is like and what we should become like. The ‘Face of God is Mercy.’
If we are to be at all godly we must become merciful. As simple as that!
Sensitivity – being there with others, there for others, in their joys and
sorrows. Never allowing a person to feel lonely, unloved.
This kind of love must begin in the
home...giving a helping hand when there’s much to be done around the house;
showing an interest in how husband or wife, dad or mother, son or daughter, has
spent the day…congratulating and commiserating.
This calls for loving sensitivity and compassion. Maybe, taking care of each other.
Responding to the physical, emotional
and spiritual needs of the different members of the Holy Family formed the very
rhythm of Holy Family’s life. The same must be true for ours. In other words, the Corporal and Spiritual
Works of Mercy should be at the heart of our family lives, as they were for
Jesus, Mary and Joseph.
The stories of many families today
resemble that of the Holy Family…finding a home, shelter, even safety; putting
food on the table, providing clothing, looking after the sick, comforting each
other when there’s a death in the family; most certainly, working to provide
for the needs of the family, with everyone being responsible in the use of
whatever is available.
Probably we adults don’t realize how much we
can give spiritual support to another even in our families. Offering to pray
for daddy or mummy when they’ve had a rough day, can in itself be a great
comfort. So, too making them a cup of
tea.
We must insist that children have a right to get their earliest religious
instruction in the home. Here good example is far more effective than thousands
of words. The young child, enthusiastic about going to church, may influence
adults to give it a try! What about Jesus showing Joseph and Mary how important
it was for Him to be in the Temple –
even though this earned Him a scolding for causing them so much distress?
However, it’s great to be idealistic,
romantic, about family life. The reality is that it’s much about imperfect
individuals imperfectly relating to one another and (please God) striving to
make life together more loving, more pleasant.
The willingness to apologize and
forgive is the bedrock of a livable family life! Striving for peace in the
home is a supreme Spiritual Work of Mercy!
If we’ve learned to appreciate this in the family there’s a fair chance
we may carry it into school, the work-place-even and onto the playing field.
The Face of God is Mercy! The ‘Human
Face of God’ is the ‘Sacrificial-Merciful Love’ of Jesus! In His public
ministry Jesus gave of His All, and then, on the cross, He gave His very
life. Something of this total
unselfishness should be in all our relating to others – especially within the
family.
God intends that our families become
Today’s Human Face Of Divine Mercy! First of all, to each other in the home,
and then everyone else!
Never, never, nice to all and sundry
‘out there’ and nasty to those living under the same roof!
Peter
and Isidore O.P.